Appearance Does Matter Connecticut

Does the way you look affect how people perceive your competence?

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Appearance Does Matter

A recent Princeton study of political candidates says it may. In a survey of over 800 students who were shown one second images of Senate and Congressional office seekers, those candidates who appeared more competent most often won their election. According to the study, and reported in the New York Times (6/14), “the authors theorize that rapid judgments of competence based on looks… can prejudice subsequent thoughts about a candidate’s other qualifications.”

Not always, but most of the time. Competence was the only factor that people were able to perceive from a photograph. Honesty and likeability were less clear from quick photo impressions.
So what does this have to do with things in your office? I think the sentiments reflected in the study, albeit confined to faces alone, may be relevant to those who aspire to leadership positions. How you look may indicate how well you can lead or, put another way, how others perceive that you can. And when it comes to leadership, perception is essential.

Not About You
If you start with the premise that leadership is about results and results ultimately come from the cooperation and collaboration of others, then it makes sense that leadership is less about the leader and more about the followers. No leader can achieve anything by herself. She does it by working with others to achieve intended goals. Therefore, anything you can do to affect the relationship positively between leader and follower is critically important.
Here are some things to keep in mind when presenting yourself as a leader.
Invest in your appearance. Take a long look at yourself in the mirror. Women and men do this differently. Women, I’m convinced, look in the mirror to see their flaws. Men I know look in the mirror to admire themselves. Women gain a pound and see themselves as rotund. Men see an expanding waistline as normal, or perhaps as an example of clothes that have shrunk in the wash. An exaggeration, perhaps, but women know better. If you expect people to follow you, give them reasons to follow your lead. Groom yourself. Dress neatly and smartly. Also take care of what’s inside you. Good diet and healthy exercise are important to your looks as well as your health.

  • Watch your expressions. The Princeton study focused exclusively on facial expressions. For leaders, the adage that the face is mirror to the soul has validity. If you frown frequently or reply with a snarl, people will avoid you. Why? Because they assume either you don’t want to be bothered or you want to bite someone’s head off, perhaps theirs. Often leaders have no idea how they look until someone, like an executive coach or a trusted advisor, pulls them aside. So lighten up. Before an important meeting, sit down, think a calming thought and, yes, check yourself in the mirror. And smile. It will reduce the tension in your face.

  • Radiate authority. When Ronald Reagan walked into the room, heads turned and people gravitated to him. He had the movie star appeal. So did John Kennedy and Bill Clinton. Reagan may have looked the part, but he was also approachable. He was a superb storyteller as well as a good listener. Clinton exemplified the active listening process. His eyes would draw a bead on the speaker and with the cock of his head he looked like he was melding with the person, soaking up what the person had to say. It is more than charisma, a form of radiant charm: leadership listening is an ability to put yourself in another's shoes and make them feel as if they are the most important person in the room. Watch your CEO stride through the workplace. If she pauses to chat with people and really listens, she is someone to follow. If he blows by with a faux wave or cursory glance (and assuming he is not running for a plane), chances are that person is more concerned with himself than others, and may not be liked or respected and could be moving on soon.

  • Reflect the glory. Appearance matters, and so do appearances. You want people to understand that you have an appreciation of what they do. In most organizations leaders lead, employees do the work. Good leaders know intuitively how to interact with others to make them feel appreciated. Leaders who acknowledge the efforts of their people both privately and publicly are leaders who have their fingers on the pulse of the organization. They know what others do matters and they acknowledge it. Skeptics may be wondering if can you fake your appreciation of others. Certainly, but only for a short time. If you simply act the part, the part will wear out sooner than you think. Authenticity is not an act. It is an example of character.

  • Lead by example. Looks matter, yes, but ultimately it is what you do as a leader that matters most. And even then, appearances matter. Be seen doing the heavy lifting. That is front and center to ensuring alignment and push for execution. When times are tough, good leaders are with their people more than ever – in the cafeteria, break room and in the work areas. They also may take a more public stance, serving as the voice of the company to the outside world. When things are rolling smoothly, they are present in another way, sharing the glory with the team.


    Look Beneath the Surface
    Appearances, of course, can be misleading. You have only to look at some of the rapscallions of business scandals past to get that feeling. For example, Jeff Skilling, former president of Enron, cut a handsome and dashing figure. His boss, Ken Lay, looks positively avuncular, the kind of guy you’d trust to watch your house if you were out of town. Neither Skilling nor Lay are business managers that anyone would want to emulate. Both ruined the fortunes and livelihoods of thousands of people, not to mention the shareholder stakes they eroded.

    Yet the way you as a leader present yourself is critical. It affects your ability to connect in a way that is authentic and leads people to give you the benefit of the doubt. Every leader must earn trust, but the door to trust can only be opened if people are willing to give you a second look, or better yet a long look and a good listen. That is why appearances matter. So go ahead and buy that new suit, If it makes you feel more in control and in command then by all means, go for it. But keep in mind that what’s inside the suit matters more. And don’t forget to smile once in awhile, too.

    John Baldoni is a leadership communications consultant who works with Fortune 500 companies as well as non-profits including the University of Michigan. He is a frequent keynote and workshop speaker as well as the author of six books on leadership; the latest is How Great Leaders Get Great Results (McGraw-Hill). Readers are welcome to visit his leadership resource website at www.johnbaldoni.com.
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