A wedding is the marriage of two minds that tick in unison. But if marriages are so intimate why do divorces ever happen? At the time of marriage both bride and groom take the vow that they will be there for each other in both the bad and good times. The honeymoon never lasted longer. Even as the wedding bells ring the death knell tolls too.
Man and wife, even as the relationship is strong and intimate, can still be the most formal one too. Both of them are usually born to different parents of diverse cultures and brought up in a manner entirely different from each other. Biologically also they are different species tied up by a beautiful knot called marriage. So many differences will arise in the way they think, act and communicate.
For a relationship to stand the test of time, both of them should be open to accept and receive the other person as another personality with acceptable and not so acceptable behavior patterns. In their eagerness to possess and dominate, each one commits the mistake of teaching the other their values and morals. This brings in the wrath of the other person. First it starts of as a scratch but later it develops into fatal bruising. It is in the approach. Don’t ever take marriage lightly. Cold feet may take the zing out of marriage.
The primary thing to do is to keep the communication flame burning whatever the circumstances. It is often the problem of not communicating properly that leads to the later disasters. Both should be prepared to avert this catastrophe. Then, the next thing is to never try to change the other person. It is just not possible. Come whatever, they will always be what they are in spite of all your wishful thinking. All strong and happy marriages survive because of compromises.
Though there are no hard and fast rules, you should keep in mind certain unwritten rules. You should both agree to disagree. Mutual trust is another area that needs attention. Many marriages fail due to suspicion and failure to understand the other person. Spend time with each other as much as possible. Don’t fight in front of the children as they pick up what they have seen and impart it into their lives too.
Face the crisis jointly, that each could find solace in each other rather than cribbing. This doesn’t mean that you should not have any say or you should obey what ever the other person dictates. Express your differences or unwillingness in a fair and healthy manner. Give each other space and do not trespass. No commitment or workplace stress should come in the way of having a wonderful sex life. Devote time to pursue common interests whether it is watching football or a movie. An occasional go back to the wonderful days when everything was romantic will also do good to keep the bond binding. So keep smiling.